as a woman

May 14, 2008

So i had something else in mind for my next post but i came across this passage and decided to swing a different way… 

“the church has not been a big help here. no, thats not quite honest enough. the church has been part of the problem. its message to women has been primarily “you are here to serve. that’s why god created you; to serve. in the nursery, in the kitchen, (etc.) … “seriously now, picture the women we hold up as models of femininity in in the church. they are sweet, helpful, their hair is coiffed; they are busy, disciplined, composed and they are tired.” (emphasis hers) you have to conclude that a godly woman is… tired. and guilty. …(paraphrase) when does she have time for life? ”

ok. i have a question about the next part. HONESTLY… with no hint of sarcasm in my (lana’s) voice… can anyone relate to the following passage. 

“i know i am not alone in this nagging sense of failing to measure up, a feeling of not being good enough as a woman. every woman i’ve ever met feels it- something deeper than just the sense of failing at what she does. An underlying, gut feeling of failing at who she is.”

ok.. ill address the second part first. i dont feel that way… but then again she’s never met me, so her (the author’s) assessment may be truth. i dont feel that i fail at life or that i fail at “being a woman”. so my serious question is: is this an underlying fear and sense that women have? i dont think that because i dont feel this way i am any less humble, or any more proud. i think i just KNOW my identity in christ and who can fail when you know that? 

second: the first paragraph makes me cringe to the COOOORRREE. We were absolutely created to serve. relentlessly, tirelessly. to serve our children, our parents, our friends, our elders, our enemies. our highest purpose is to serve so that it may bring glory to god. (and i’ve got some kickin john piper quotes to back this up.. just not on me). but we were created to serve right alongside men. I am in no way trying to downplay the fact that for the most part women have in the past been belittled to stay at home or in the kitchen or whatever… but what a pleasure. what a pleasure to serve. its all jesus did. he said out of the ones sitting at the table and the ones serving them, he would be the one serving. and i dont think for one second that he never got tired. he was HUMAN. of course he got tired. but what better way to tire yourself than by service to others. i believe in our relentless pursuit to serve others we will forget about “failing at life” or “failing at being a woman”. we will be fulfilling the very essence of what it means to live. and what it means to be a woman created in the image of christ. the biggest servant there ever was. 


the book is captivating. i started to read it years ago and never finished… doesnt look like i’ll finish this time either. i may be an amazing book… we’ll see if i get to the end 🙂 


3 Responses to “as a woman”

  1. allison richmond Says:

    well, when i read that book a few years ago, most of it did not really resonnate with me either, but i did really get a lot out of chapter eight…a beauty to unveil. in fact, i was thinking about re-reading that chapter this week. so maybe you can skip forward to that.
    additionally, i think what the author’s intent was more about martha vs. mary mentality, “being” verses “doing” in order to gain one’s identity/validity in Christ. not so much, don’t serve, but don’t serve for the wrong reasons. with probably a little “don’t serve outside of your area or else you’ll wear yourself out” mixed in there.
    she goes on (if i remember right) to speak a lot about a woman’s privledge to offer rest to those in her company…being nurturing (which would include homemaking and what you’re talking about), etc. she does this in the chapter i mention, so again, maybe just FF. peace out whodi.

  2. lanacole Says:

    ooook. thanks allison… i havent made it that far so ill def. skip forward and read chapter 8. i probly should finish a book before i critique it next time 🙂

  3. johny.b Says:

    ok i have a responce to the first part of your post,and this just comes from me being raised ,and 98 percent of my friend growing up ,until now were girls is that alot of what we think females are to do is based upon mans thinking is girls and young ladies serve in nurseys and kitchens ,when I have seen a good bit of girls beat the guys in manual labor such as the stuff we do in mexic, i might be putting my brothers down but ,its true and i am not pointing the finger with out pointing it at my self.

    ok and here what i am gonna say and i hope this encourages you when you start to feel that way ,ask God to just help you look at it as i helping do part of your kingdom work ,yes i know it may stink , but god help me to see that where ever i serve no matter what is that i am serving you.

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